Your Turn Thursday: How do you support moms?

how to support other moms

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There’s been an awful lot of talk about the so-called Mommy Wars lately. And while the “wars” may have been invented – or at least inflamed – by the media, it’s obvious that plenty of moms feel judged, pressured and misunderstood.

Of course, that leaves the question: what do we do about it? Is it enough to simply “opt out” of the Mommy Wars and refuse to participate?

Well, it’s a good start. But I believe there is more power in action, and particularly in acting the way we want to feel.If we want to feel like we’re part of a supportive, encouraging, global community of mothers, then we have to help create that community…one act of kindness, support, and encouragement at a time.

I’ve written before about how to be a good friend to a mom, but I’m also a big fan of performing random acts of mom-kindness toward women you don’t know at all.

Going out of your way to make a supportive comment to an uncertain new mom. Holding the baby while a friend takes a shower or nap. Letting the woman with the writhing toddler go ahead of you in line. Little acts that add up to a happier community of mothers with less reason to lash out or preemptively judge each other out of insecurity or just plain worn-down-ness.

So in the hopes that we can inspire one other to be more intentionally supportive and kind to each other, I’d love it if you would share some ways you support and show kindness to moms – or just ways you want to start doing so in the future.

No act is too small: we all know that even a well-timed smile can make all the difference sometimes, right?

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