1 perfectionist + 1 impatient spouse = DIY drama

You may wonder why I haven’t posted any home renovation updates lately. Well, it’s mostly because we’ve made precious little progress over the past few months. Over at my Babble blog, I mused about why this might be:

Jon’s slow, methodical way of approaching things can drive me nuts, because I don’t see the thought simmering below the surface: it just looks like he’s not doing anything. But when he finally gets moving, he crosses his t’s and dots his i’s and also takes care of all the t’s and i’s that I missed. Jon can’t be rushed into things, but once he decides he’s ready he’ll tackle whatever it is with amazing determination and attention to detail.

I, on the other hand, am more of a “Why wait?” get-’er-done type. I want to tackle every room in the house, like, today, even if it means starting before I’ve assembled all the necessary tools or know-how. As you can probably imagine, this approach leads to mixed results.

In most day-to-day tasks, our opposite approaches complement one another. I’m the one who jumps in and (rather haphazardly) gets the dishes done most days, but on the days he does them, he’ll clean the kitchen spotlessly, too. I’ll plan meals and get something on the table 80% of the time, but when he cooks, it’s a feast.

But for some reason, when it comes to home renovations the combination of Jon’s caution and care and my impulsiveness and impatience seem to have led to project paralysis.

Click over to read the full post. And please tell me, do you and your spouse have opposing styles that make it hard to get things done sometimes?

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