As I’ve been contemplating the whole “can women have it all” issue over the last few days, the idea of “help” has been heavy on my mind: either support from family and friends – the kind many mothers no longer have regular access to – or hired help, the sort many mothers feel guilty and conflicted about using.
I think the right kind of support can make the difference between being a happy, relatively calm mom or being constantly frazzled and stressed. It can make the transition of a second (or third or fourth) child easier. It can make long gray afternoons tolerable or your work life easier.
But I get the feeling that a lot of women simply don’t have go-to friends, nearby family or really anyone they can ask for help. Am I right? I want to hear from you: do you have what you would call a ‘tribe”, or a support system? Who is in it? How have you created it?
If not, what is keeping you from getting the support you need? I know other readers will have great ideas and advice for you, so don’t be shy.
*image from my book The Happiest Mom: 10 Secrets To Enjoying Motherhood