When I was younger, particularly pre-kids, my relationship with my hair was pretty simple: I wanted it to be as long as I could possibly grow it, to curl it on the weekends, and to sprinkle lemon juice on it in the summer for that “naturally sun-kissed” (in reality, streaky yellow) look.
I think I assumed that at some point my hair would stop being a split-end-riddled, frizzy mess and I’d suddenly look like a Pantene model. But then I had kids, and my long, thick, wavy hair became nothing short of a nuisance. I no longer even had time to curl it on the weekends, and as for applying Sun-In and sitting on the beach for hours? Ha!
So one day in my early 20s, in an impulsive moment, I decided to cut my hair to a little shorter than chin-length. I was terrified at first: it was the first time I’d had short hair since the Unfortunate Locker-mate With Lice Incident of 1988, after all. And I felt like my long hair defined me as a mom who was still young and fashionable and who might, if she just found the right shampoo-conditioner combination, actually look like that Pantene model one day. (It could happen! Right? Right?)
But the stylist was encouraging and I was tired of my heavy load of hair, so I closed my eyes and told her to cut. And I loved the result. I felt so free! So sassy! So much lighter about the head! For the first time ever, I could spend five minutes with a blow-dryer and some product, and leave the house looking polished and grown-up.
Since then I’ve tried halfheartedly to grow my hair back out a few times, but usually give up by the time I can scrape it together into a ponytail and realize that all I actually want to do with it, every day, is put it in a ponytail (which kind of makes the idea of long hair pointless, eh?) Then I cut it off again, rinse and repeat.
The older I’ve gotten and the more kids I’ve had, the more important my hair has become. I guess because I don’t invest as much time in fashion anymore, my hair and seems to define me much more than what I wear. If it grows too long or shaggy, I look unkempt. If the little flippy bits in the back grow too long, I look like Carol Brady. If the cut screams “wash and wear” I look frumpy. The middle-short length is fun, but hard to get just right: sometimes I nail it and love my hair for a week, then it grows an eighth of an inch and suddenly my style is completely derailed.
So a few months ago I started seriously considering going short. Like this kind of short:
Image: Getty
I went to a hairstylist and asked her for a short cut and she was not all that enthusiastic.
“That’s really short,” she said as I pointed to the photo.
“I know. I want it short,” I said.
“Hm, maybe we should try something a little less extreme and see how you like it.”
“But I like this.”
“It’s just really short.”
I’m sure you can see where this is going. Not being 100% sure I was ready for the pixie to begin with, I caved in to her “compromise” cut, which was nothing even close to a pixie.
This is my (rather wind-tousled) hair two days ago:
Yes, I am the exact same color as the sand.
It’s pretty short, but there’s still room to scrunch and tousle. It’s short hair that seems like it could be long, and it’s definitely my safety zone. The thought of going much shorter is a little scary. Will I look like a little boy? Will baring that much face highlight my less-flattering features? Will I even recognize myself without my signature fluffs and puffs?
And am I really ready to move that far away from the idea of growing it out again? I know a lot more about my hair now than I did in my teens and early 20’s – exactly what kind of styles and cuts work best for my hair texture and type; the care routines and products that keep it looking its best. So maybe the idea of long hair isn’t a lost cause…if I start growing it now I could have it down to my shoulders by the end of the summer…and then maybe one day I really could have that Pantene model look once and for all.
Nope. I used to see the “mom cut”- the short easy-style do so many of us wind up with – as a sort of giving in to age and a busy life. A kind of giving up, really. And I suppose it is; but instead of giving up, I like to think of it as a surrender. I am getting older, I do have more lines around my eyes, I don’t have an hour to blow-dry, brush and flat-iron every day. And I am not ever going to look like a Pantene model (and not only because I don’t have her hair.) I surrender!
The super-short pixie cut feels to me like a way of embracing that surrender and really going with a style instead of straddling the fence. But I’m still a little afraid to do it.
Clearly, I need a new stylist. And maybe a round of encouragement.
What do you think your hair says about you? Have you struggled with holding on to a hairstyle that no longer suits you or been afraid to go for a new look?
Well said. As to your conclusion, it’s nice to have a stylist who offers his or her opinion regarding a cut, but in the end, they should do what you like to your hair. I say visit someone new and go for it!!! I love that super short cut. 🙂
I second this, there should be opinions offered but the final decision should be yours. I think you could completely rock the heck out of that pixie!
I love your hair (also love the pixie cut – Danielle @foodmomiac wears it well). I recently chopped all mine off to donate (and I was due for a change). It was only until I had kids that I actually grew mine out. It’s always been in a modified bob of some kind.
These days, I’m finding that the bob works for me because I can actually “do” it when I need to. With the long hair, I could never actually style it. I feel much more put together now that I can actually do my hair on my own.
I’m a longhair, curly to boot (who, of course, wishes her hair was perfectly straight). This post about hair was one of my very first Two Kinds of People posts. Three years later, I’m seriously considering cutting it all off. I’m just afraid I’ll look like a poodle. Or worse, a helmet head. My other issue is that my head is so round that most cuts make me look like Charlie Brown with a wig.
Your cut is darling. Wish I could pull it off. Thanks for the smile.
It’s my dream to walk into a salon, sit down, and tell the stylist “Do whatever you want,” only to walk out completely transformed. My hair is so hard to work with, and I dream of someone else fixing it for me. I want to be the person who displays the “I don’t care that much, but I still look good” look, but that’s hard to accomplish with fine, thin, body-less hair that insists on being straight on one side and sticking out on the other.
Have you ever looked into being a model for a hair show? That’s sort of what they do, and it’s either free or you actually get paid to appear. I did it twice when I was younger – the first cut I love. The second, which included a color I thought was too light, not so much.
I recently cut about 5 inches of hair, from a long layed style to a short layered bob. I’ve gotten lots of compliments. I’ve had long hair on and off for years, but like you when I find my hair is mostly in a ponytail, it’s time for a change. Since summers in south Texas are hot, I knew I would spend the summer in a pony…so I headed in impulsively, to the salon, to my wonderful stylist who was all for it! With 4 kids myself, I have about 30 minutes to spend TOTAL in the bathroom…including bath, hair and makeup! Short and sassy is cute and a time saver. I feel like everyday is a good hair day now! I say go for it! The pixie is super cute…I work with a wonderful lady who has that cut and she wears it well…so stylish!
Mine is curly and huge and to the middle of my back. But I love it and I am just letting it go as long as it will. I’ve had the pixie for years and years, did the long and short and a-line bob. Now I just let it do what it wants. It’s not much work, which is good for me. It just makes me happy. I haven’t a clue what is says about me. 🙂
it says you are doing what makes YOU happy!!!
As someone who recently gave up trying to make my long hair work for me, I advise getting that short pixie cut! Truly! And if you hate it, it will grow and you will know to never go there again. But I do think that it would look cute on you!
As a hairstylist to MANY moms and as a mom myself I feel the need to voice my opinion. I tend to to trendier, funkier, more cool but eay to do styles but also cater to a conservative crowd but one things is for certain I NEVER talk a client into a ‘safe’ cut. As a mom it is easy to fall into the trappings of frumpy, 40 something, suburban housewife. If that is who you are great but most woman are not that at all. I did it myself when my 6 yr old was born! Cut off all my long pink dreadlocks, bleached it blonde and wore a short a-line with zero pizzazz for my fine, thin, straight hair. I LOST my identity. I was no longer me I was the woman who was trying to look like a mom who could be accepted as the stereotypical mom. Hard to do when you have facial piercings and are covered in tattoos but I tried. I failed and in the process I was miserable. I soon went back to my dreadlocks via extensions but kept them blonde with a pink, blue and orange few to keep my personality and in the process discovered that you can be a mom AND keep your personality. I think it is important to discuss your desires and have a supportive stylist, if your stylist is just as afraid of change as you are maybe it is time to find one who is willing to take you where you want to go. The great thing about hair is it continues to grow but a truly great stylist will give you the cut that will suit you complete with that little bit of edge most of us need. A good stylist will support your need for change and help you embrace it with some helpful styling tips, a smile and a promise to never let you fall into the trap of playing safe because they are afraid of change. Too many women cling to long hair or safe lengths because their partners or friends are partial or their stylist is partial to long hair. Time to stop hiding behind your hair ladies and open up the world of possibilities that is your true crowning glory!
I’m mom to 20 month old twins. I’ve been growing my hair since before I was pregnant. It’s finally to the middle of my back. While having babies changed my routine, I’m still growing it out. Now, I wash at night and go to bed with wet hair. Then straighten/curl the ends in the morning. It doesn’t take too awfully long. I say go for the short cut though!!!
I think your hair looks cute, but you could definitely pull off the pixie. The cut you currently have is a grown-out pixie, if you want to get right down to do it. That way if you don’t like it, you know what it will look like as it grows out (not too shabby!)
My hair is long, long, long, mostly because every time I try a short hair cut, my husband freaks out, and my hair ends up looking like something freakish–I have very curly hair and it does weird things when short. I actually think it is easier to maintain long as I can tie it up and go rather than having to spend time styling it, which I inevitably have to do if it is shorter than my bra strap. I do keep long layers in it now after years of all-one-length, and I find that gives me a nice option for the days that I do wear my hair down, but I have two (soon to be three) kids under four, and frankly, keeping my hair down is just not an option most days unless I want food, poop or various other assorted disgusting substances in it by night fall. Hopefully some day soon, when my children are no longer babies and toddlers I can keep it down again.
I am at constant war with my hair. Not b/c I don’t like it, b/c I love it too much and I am always looking for ways to reinvent my look. I go from pixie to shoulder length, loading up on vitamins to attempt to make my hair grow faster. If I could, I would invest in really great wigs.
I love short cuts and think women who pull it off look sexy and amazing. In an effort to not have a matted-down, fresh from bed look, I have scarves and clips and fun hats to throw on when I take the kids to school at 8 AM.
Yes, I am sure the moms think I am slightly odd and eccentric as I don a floral scarf around my head, but poo-poo on them b/c I got the idea from a Nordstrom Beauty Trend Show last year!
I like your short style and suggest you get a new stylist who can think on his/her feet and make fashion-forward suggestions for your hair. Not what everyone else asks for (aka, a bob) but what will make YOU beautiful. I have said my peace…
Go for the pixie! That would look awesome!
I think that pixie cut would look really good on you. You should just do it. And if you hate it- just remember hair grows!
I really like your cut, but I must say the conversation with your stylist seems odd to me. Was her objection simply that the cut is short — in itself? (I think it looks lovely.) Or was her objection that she felt that such a short cut might not work well for you? (Though from the photos I’ve seen of you, I think you could do it.)
As for me, my hair has been super long and super short at various points of my life. I’ve generally tended to want really really long hair, though I do get tired of it. I most recently cut it all off shortly after the birth of my son. And I’ve generally been hating my hair since he was born — and it’s awful. I feel like frumpy mom nearly all the time. Meanwhile, I can’t seem to find the stylist who can do my hair in the funky bob that I want!
It WAS odd, Rachael! I will say it’s not the first time a stylist has tried to talk me out of a cut or technique I’ve requested (I had one stylist insist she would never use a razor on wavy hair, even though I’d been getting razored all along and it REALLY works on my particular wavy hair.) I think she was afraid I’d regret it, or maybe she was not confident she could pull the cut off and wanted to go with something safer?
My hair is the one thing I’m kind of vain about. It’s long and dark and thick and straight and I love it. I personally am a big fan of feminine haircuts, although I think thinner hair tends to look best in bobs or layers no longer than shoulder length. My usual move is to tell my hair stylist that I like it long-preferably longer than chin length, but otherwise to knock themselves out because they know better than ms what is in style and works with certain hair textures and face shapes! I’ve had it layered so the shortest layer was just a couple inches long but the back was longer and it looked great, but I like it super long best I think. I personally wouldn’t advise anyone to get a pixie cut, but I’m biased because moms and grandmas around here who have totally given up tend to be the only ones with hair shorter than ear length. I think you could totally pull it off though-you have strong bone structure and delicate features so I think it’d be balanced and you’d still look feminine and stylish, and if you hated it, it’d be back like it is now by Christmas I’m sure!
This is why I’m afraid of super short haircuts: http://www.google.com/m/search?site=images&gl=us&client=safari&source=mog&hl=en&aq=f&oq=&aqi=g3-k0d0t0&fkt=4112&fsdt=9273&cqt=&rst=&htf=&his=&maction=&q=grandma+hair#i=28
How do you keep a pixie cut on wavy hair from turning into this ridiculousness? (It might be possible…I just honestly don’t know) My mom and grandma both used to have that haircut at different times and it wasn’t pretty. Anyway I just wanted to share that pic in case you didn’t know what I was talking about with the “giving-up” hair. (the pic is just some random woman I found on google…apparently this is her mug shot from speeding to the hair salon!!)
I think that’s the point of this post. We shouldn’t assume women who cut their hair have given up. If their particular haircut looks frumpy, they need a different style, but not necessarily long hair.
yes – it feels like giving up only because I held on to the idea of long, luxurious hair as THE standard of beauty for so long. But it IS giving in to reality, which is a) long hair doesn’t look as good on me as I always wished it would and b) even if it did, I don’t have the time to put into making long hair look its best these days. I’d rather pick a short style I love and really go with it than keep my hair sort of in the middle just so I didn’t have to commit one way or the other.
BTW LH – the fact that you searched ‘Grandma Hair” just cracked me up!
I love that short pixie cut! Super cute. My only piece of advice is, be careful if you have cowlicks. I didn’t realize until I had my hair cut that short that a chunk at the crown of my head would stick straight up (ala alfalfa). I spent WAY more time trying to control that than I ever did on my long hair!
Have you tried one of those sites that let you “try on cuts?” I always go to dailymakeover when I want to see how I’d look in a cut.
When I bring in several photos to my stylist, often I bring in the ones I’ve “tried on” online and several angles of the same cut to help her understand exactly what I like about the cut.
I think you could totally rock a pixie!
I’ve had both short and long hair throughout my adult life…I’m always wavering. Lately I’ve given up on short and am growing out my hair. I’ve gained a lot of weight over the past 4 years and somehow I feel my hair could be the one beautiful thing about me (I know, there are plenty of self-image issues in that sentence, but I’m working on it…promise). I mean, after all, EVERY plus size model has long flowing locks of hair. I never see one with a cute, short haircut. So, I’m trying long again, but if it ends up in a ponytail everyday (like it did 18 months ago, the last time I had long hair), then I’ll go short and stay there.
Just FYI, I’m very overweight and keep my hair in a pixie. So if you decide you don’t like your hair long, short hair can still be beautiful.
My hair is short short.
I love it this way.
It does slightly limit the variation in my day-to-day hair but… I still love it.
I’ve grown it out a few times, and my hair even made it as far as my shoulders a couple of times but I’ve always gone back to short short.
My super short hair probably says more about me than I realise since it’s never the same colour for more than a few months at a time. It’s been black, I had it blond this year, a few weeks ago I dyed it lilac but I’m already thinking about going dark again (Winona Ryder stylee).
What I’m trying to say is, if you think you can pull it off, and you’re brave enough just go for it. Short hair doesn’t mean admitting defeat.
Plus… I’ve found that hair pretty much always grows back 😀
You would look fabulous in a pixie! Since becoming a mom a year ago, I have also struggled with the hair issues. It’s tough to balance your lack of time with your needs for style and ease. I’ve been struggling with taking a risk and getting the style I want. It’s scary! But, it’s just hair, it’ll grow back. At least it’s acceptable for hairstyles in the summer to be more free spirited!
I love shortish hair on a woman, and myself too – mine is similar to yours (at least what it looks like here) – wavy, THICK. The problem is, when I’m pregnant I need long hair or I feel HUGE. I should say, HUGER. It’s a perspective thing.
I love your do and am seriously contemplating going short again, especially with this hot humid Georgia weather. But what if I get pregnant?
I had a male co-worker mansplain to me once about the “mom haircut”. What he didn’t know was that even though my hair at the time was long, I had had it short (varied from chin length to pixie) since I was 20. My hair was long at that time only because I wanted to know what it was like to have it long again.
I never did feel comfortable with it down, touching my neck so off it went. My current cut is a pixie and I LOVE it. Two minutes with the blow dryer and little product and I look like I care about myself. I know now that I feel better, more polished and fashionable (even when my clothes aren’t) when I have short hair. Long hair just makes me feel frumpy.
P.S. You would look fab in a pixie. And it’s just hair right? It’ll grow back if you don’t like it.
My hair says, “I give up.”
My hair is overpowering and a lot of work. It is incredibly thick and frizzy. Because of this it takes me at least a half hour to make it look barely presentable unless I slick it back into a bun with a ton of gel. I look great in a pixie cut but I cannot maintain that look with my busy lifestyle. (Yes, even a pixie cut takes me a half hour to style.) I am growing my hair out and a bun every day is ok and it does look fantastic when I have the time to product and blow dry it. But really, long hair is me giving up on having any kind of style.
I can’t resist the urge to give you unsolicited advice for how to deal with the stylist. But I’m unclear on exactly what happened. Did you ask her point blank, “Why don’t you think a pixie cut will work for me?” And, if so, did she answer the question directly? Or did she pussyfoot around it?
Kiki, I was far too passive about it, and I own that. I showed her a picture of what I wanted, and we had the little conversation above, and I said “well, I really like it.” But then she…didn’t actually CUT it that way. So I just kept asking her to cut a little more off…and a little more…and a little more…and finally she started styling it and I really couldn’t tell whether it was short enough or not. It looked great when I left, but it wasn’t what I ASKED for, and a week’s growth knocked it right back into middle-short area.
Lesson learned: be much more assertive next time. But by the time this had gone on for forty-five minutes I just kind of wanted to get out of there (and was feeling a little nervous about actually letting her do it since she obviously didn’t want to!)
She was a new-to-me stylist, too, which made it a little more sensitive.
I love my hair. It’s thick, red, and very curly. I’ve worn it lots of different ways. For the past four years or so I’ve been sporting an awesome curly bob…on my good days I look like a 1950s movie star. But I’ve been starting to itch for a change and have been growing it out. It’s about at my shoulders right now, but I’m eager for it to grow longer. The longer it gets, the prettier my natural ringlets are. But…it’s just hair! And I’ve never been afraid to mess with it. I have been a little too shy to get a pixie thus far, but that’s just because my hair does WEIRD things when it’s too short.
I envy the short hair cute cuts but my hair just does not do short. Long, long and long for me till I die, but the good thing is it really suits me. 🙂
Just do it! Worse case scenario? You hate it, it takes a couple of months of pinning it down to grow back to the current length you’re rocking and you move on! You’ll never know ’till you try it.
Easy for me to say though, I wear my hair that short, colored deep red and styled straight up into a mohawk. After years of feeling *less* pretty with longer hair (far too many equate long hair with feeling feminine and pretty) because it was thick and wavy and I couldn’t style it to save my life I stopped fighting the cowlicks and took the plunge!
I just got a great cut yesterday, it’s the happiest I’ve been with a haircut in ages! I think I’ve found a new stylist, she seems to be a curl expert!
I have gone back and forth with my hair throughout my life. I’m also a curly redhead, and I’ve gone from long curls during high school, to chin length straight cut when I graduated, back to super long as a young mom, to short and layered after baby #2 and #3, then let it grow for years. Last year when I had my baby #4 my hair was back to mid back, then I cut it again after she was born… just now though finally getting the style I wanted.
I have a sort of love/hate relationship with my hair. It took me forever to make peace with it (if you were ever a little girl with tight red curls I’m sure you can relate) and I’ve struggled with it for a long time. At some point I realized though that my hair is beautiful, and what makes it that way is it’s uniqueness, its color and yes, even that tousled, messy look that I used to try so hard to avoid.
About 5 years ago I had straight hair that ended just below my bra. Then I took a leap and got a super short cut. Close to my head in the back and sides with longer bits on top for that casual tousled look. If you feel ready then just jump in like I did. You can always grow it out if you don’t like it. I kept my hair short for about 4 years before I started growing it out last year.
Meagan, I swear I had the exact same conversation with a stylist of mine a couple years back, and I still have not gotten the courage to go for it. To his credit he made a couple good points: the pixie would take more styling/time than the low maintenance bob I was used to, and to be really successful/edgy he thought one needs to add highlights to give the cut dimension. So in all it sounded like I’d be signing up for more maintenance, vs less. So I alternate between a short bob, which actually can look good on me, and a long bob, which I do for ease of pony tail. I pretty much have a hate-tolerate relationship with my hair so frankly the less I have to think about it he happier I am. Still, someday I want to go for the pixie. Sounds like you’re ready!
All of Carey Mulligan’s short hair pics have been my hairspiration lately too. Last month I went the pixie route (after having varying lengths of short hair for the last couple of years) and it ended up too short and spiky. Not enough fringe and too short on the sides left me feeling unfeminine and uncomfortable. However I didn’t panic because I knew in a month or so it would soften up and it did. Now I like it and will probably just get the neck trimmed while the top grows out more. Anyways I say go for it! I have never thought that short hair meant I was giving up, I love always having a “style” and not having to worry about actually styling it (no more flat iron yay!). Around here the mom haircut usually translates to an asymmetrical straightened bob that looks a little stiff so I do feel a little edgier with super short hair too.
I love your hair! I have an appointment to get mine done this Saturday. My hair is in need of some SERIOUS help. I never fix it anymore and it’s such a bummer! Thanks for the encouragement.
Actually, my story is the opposite of yours.
All of my pre-kids life was about short hair and experiments in colors. I have been told that my hair was too weak and slender that I just couldn’t grow it more longer than half my neck.
Now that I have kids and I began to go “to the essential” of living, I have decided that I am sticking to my original color and I let it grow as it can. I think my non-cut hair is more manageable and let me feel more “me” and natural….for the first time in my life.
My hair is now a sign of my “grown-up” revolution: no matter what people (my mother, hairstylists…) are saying…I decide for myself! 🙂
I always say look at the face. The actress has a nice lean long face just like you. You would be able to pull that short hair cut off in a heartbeat. You only live once, and in a year when your hair is long you won’t have that courage again. No matter what, the haircut you choose will look great. It is only hair!
I think the pixie would look cute on you. You could totally pull it off.
As far as your question, my hair says “help me” right now. I’ve been trying to grow it out for a while, but it’s that weird length in the front where it’s always in my face, so I mostly wear it in an updo, ponytail, or clip. I also henna and love the color I get from it, but lately I tend to end up with roots showing far too often.
I like my hair either really long or super short, but I know it takes years to grow back out and hate the in-between, plus my preferred “short” style is too punky for most workplaces. I used to wear it with the top mostly cut from 1/2″ to 1 1/2 inches (either with clippers or razor into super short little spiky layers) and leave my bangs and some wispy pieces on the side around my face longer. Of course, it used to also be purple or blue most of the time. Sometimes, I really want to go back to that, but I’m edging on 30 so I don’t want the drama it would bring.
I’m 35 and letting my silver grow out. I am choosing to look at is as both liberating and courageous. 🙂
You need to go for the short cut! You would totally rock it! The cut you got is cute, and I don’t know you, but from that picture, I can easily picture it on you. I say go for it!
I am the opposite – as my kids have aged I’ve let my hair grow long. Longer than it has ever been in my entire life. And I love it. Yes it requires care, more time than I’d like to admit, but it’s long which is something I always wanted as a kid but my mother would never let me. And my hubby likes it too!
I think I’m the only one I know that doesn’t get hung up on my hair (or should I say didn’t). I’ve had it super long and super short and everything (and every shade) in-between. I know “It will always grow” if it’s a bad cut. After my first baby I went short again (after growing it really long for the wedding) and loved it all the way through baby #2 being 2 years old. Then, all of a sudden I thought… I better let it grow now before I’m much older and have to cut it off… but why would I have to? I felt like there is an unwritten rule that older ladies need to keep short hair. But really? For now, I’m keeping it long and maybe, just maybe I will for a long time (most likely I will cut it… ). I like you’re cut, looks cute on you!
I say go for it! Cut it even shorter.
I just recently cut about 10 inches off of my hair. It’s not the pixie cut-it’s a little bit longer than your current cut, but the shortest I ever had in my life (I’m 40). I feel exactly as you described-sassy and free. I was nervous too, but have not looked back-feels so good.
If you do get the Pixie cut-post a picture for us. maybe that will inspire me to go shorter next time.
I love the pixie cut. I’ve actually had it twice (during my early 20s, actually) and loved it. I sometimes think about doing it again now that I’m in my early 30s. I think you should go for it if you want to try it out. In the end, it’s just hair, right? It grows back. I think the pixie can be really chic and not at all “surrendering” to age or stage in life. I am a stay-at-home mom of 3 daughters ages 6 and under and have been struggling with this whole “what does my hair say about me” question too. People often guess my age as much younger and I think it’s my ponytail, all one color. I have always wanted hair like a Pantene model too so it made me smile when you said that. Go for it with the pixie cut! I look forward to pictures. One thing I’ve noticed about short-haired women that can help step them up a notch is earrings. Now that your ears will be exposed you can have fun with all kinds of cute earrings that will help you not feel “frumpy.”
I love it! Your hairstyle is short but trendy. As a mom, it’s better to have the hairstyle that we can manage to look fresh without the need to brush it a lot of times in a day. It’s what we call beautiful hair-day every day effortlessly. And by the way I like your term “mom- cut“ hair. I’m thinking of doing that on my “mom’s day-off”.
Go for it! I’ve got it myself and LOVE it. I’ll often start to grow it out, but always go back to the pixie. A little gel, 2 minutes with the hairdryer, some styling paste to give it some texture and I’m out the door. I get compliments all the time on it! I think I love it so much because when I see other women with super short hair they look so strong and self-assured – there’s nothing to hide behind! Can’t wait to see how it turns out!
LOVE the pixie cut. Spent a ton of time trying to get people to give it to me and every stylist did the same thing yours did ‘that’s short, let’s do this instead’. 3 bad short styles later and I’m back on the ‘long and frizzy’ path. I SO want a pixie cut 🙁 but now I’m tired of growing out bad shortcuts.
You always seem to post on topics that have been on my mind. This is a big one! I didn’t realise it until after I had a baby, but my hair is such a big part of my identity. Now, even with only one kid, I just don’t have the time to do with it what I would have, pre-baby. The truth is that when I finally got my “mom haircut” (I just hate that expression, but there’s a reason it exists!) at 9-months postpartum, I felt a huge sense of relief. Like a heavy weight had been lifted off my shoulders – why didn’t I do it earlier?? There are still days (lots of them) when I wish I had my “old hair”. Ah well, I surrender, too.
Thanks for helping me process all these things that stew around in my brain, and so eloquently and logically!
As someone who walked into a hair salon in 1998 and walked out with an honest to goodness pixie…it is both terrifying and exhilarating. My only advice is to be willing to stick with it for a while, because the growing out process is no fun at all. 🙂 I’m personally sick and tired of wearing my hair in a ponytail every day, but I just can’t bring myself to chop it all off…thanks for the inspiration and reminder that we all have “hair challenges”!! 🙂
Not a bad hair cut. It’s just fine, I mean if I were you. You look younger on that cut. You know what I like most on hair is that it doesn’t matter how long or short it maybe as long as you know how to style it. Hairstyles can go from classic elegant to trendy. You remind me to get myself a haircut. Got it shoulder length right now. 🙂
Too funny. I just posted about hair and haircuts this week. I’d been contemplating change. Sick of my same-old same-old hairstyle. Since I’m not near any salons (living on the Lost Coast in CA), I got hasty and cut my own. Well, my husband had to help on the back. And then the next day I decided to cut bangs. Bangs for the first time in two decades. I’m loving the change. I hope you do cut it. I think it’ll just keep itching at your subconscious until you do anyhow. At least that’s the way it always seems to work for me. Good luck to you!
The pixie cut was the best thing that’s ever happened to my hair. 🙂