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Want to feel better about your house? Invite somebody over.

by Sarah Powers on March 3, 2014

Last Monday Meagan shared a simple way to plan a better week: Get up 5 minutes earlier. Since many of you are looking for small, specific ways to improve your home lives, we thought we’d make a habit of it, and take turns sharing these types of tips at the start of each week. -Sarah

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“The ornament of a house is the friends who frequent it.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Last weekend we realized rather late in the game that we had almost no plans. A good thing, in general, because we protect our weekends pretty fiercely from over-scheduling, but this one was particularly empty. So with very little notice we invited some friends to come over Sunday afternoon to let the kids play and have a casual dinner all together.

Hosting these friends is not a “clean the entire house from top to bottom” event. We see them often and they’ve seen our house in various stages of put-togetherness and disarray. And yet, in the 20 minutes before they arrived, I busied myself with the following:

  • wiped down surfaces in the downstairs bathroom, closed the half-open shower curtain that hides the tub where I keep my stash of dirty kitchen linens until I carry them upstairs to the laundry
  • collected a stash of papers that had taken over THE ENTIRE bar counter separating the kitchen and dining room, stacked them and put them in the office, and closed the office door
  • removed the heap of dirty kids’ clothes from the bottom stair and put it in a laundry basket upstairs
  • hung up backpacks, put the throw pillows back on the couch (in the spots where I like them), and turned on the table lamps in our entryway
  • dug through some photos I’d had printed weeks ago, and put pictures into two new frames – frames that had been sitting on a shelf for weeks with the stock photos still in them, and yet in less than five minutes now sported cute photos of my kids

Was it a thorough housecleaning? Oh heck no. There was a fair amount of hasty scooping-up and stashing junk away to spots unseen. But when the doorbell rang the house was picked up, well-lit, and ready to be played in, laughed in, and eaten in by 4 adults and 6 kids. And when our friends left, there were more dishes in the sink and toys on the floor, yes, but some fruits of my quick cleanup labor remained: a paperless counter, a cleaner bathroom, and nary a dirty sock on the stairs.

And the house felt good. It felt imperfect and chaotic and lived in, but it didn’t feel sloppy and uncared for anymore.

If you are starting this week with unfinished chores, piles that are gathering dust, or just a general feeling of blahness about your living space, try this: invite someone over.

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It doesn’t have to be a four-course dinner party or a visit from your overly critical great-aunt. Any small way to open your home to people you enjoy can have this effect. Such as:

  • when you run into the elderly neighbor lady who adores your baby, ask her to come over for a cup of tea later
  • when you and the cool-seeming mom from preschool say (for the 27th time) that it would be fun to get the kids together, set a date and invite them over
  • instead of meeting your girlfriends for a glass of wine at a restaurant, plan to have them over after the kids are in bed
  • ask a former work colleague to drop by at lunch or at the end of the day to catch up

Here’s what will happen. You’ll look forward to the visit, you’ll put a little extra attention and care into what your home looks like (even if it’s at the verylastminute), you’ll at the very least look around and see if anyone’s dirty underwear is on the floor, and I promise you: you’ll feel better as a result.

If your kids are small and your house is more often a disappointment than a showcase, take heart. I really believe that welcoming guests is one small way to give yourself a (loving, gentle) kick in the rear end when it comes to basic, good-enough housekeeping. Your house may still need a good scrubbing and the hidden piles will need to be tackled at some point, but in the meantime, isn’t it nice to break bread with friends and enjoy your home in a spiffed-up state?

So tell me: Who can you invite over this week? Do you scurry around hiding piles at the last minute? What’s your 20-minute guest-ready housecleaning routine?

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Olivia March 3, 2014 at 9:34 am

I agree. Knowing company is coming over makes me see the mess thru their eyes, so that pile of papers or sock that I’ve been stepping over all day finally gets picked up.

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Sarah Powers March 3, 2014 at 11:57 am

So true! And it’s not like it was THAT hard to pick up the sock, but somehow we tolerate the stepping-over more when it’s just us at home, right?

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Amy @ Frugal Mama March 3, 2014 at 10:10 am

I totally get this, Sarah! It seems counterintuitive — when you feel bad and your house is a mess, invite people over! But just as you say, it totally works to lift spirits and get the house in shape. I agree that last minute invites are really fun to fill in a quiet weekend, and instead of spending money on the movies, you’re giving to others and building friendships.

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Sarah Powers March 3, 2014 at 11:56 am

You’re so right – I think when I realized this was after having my first baby. People would want to stop by to visit and at first it would stress me out, but over time I realized that putting away dirty pump parts, quickly loading the dishwasher, and picking up just a little bit did wonders for my OWN sanity. Thanks so much for reading and commenting, Amy!

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Kristen March 3, 2014 at 10:26 am

Love this, Sarah. I’m always amazed at what I can get done in 20 minutes of concerted effort rather than days of procrastination! :)

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Sarah Powers March 3, 2014 at 11:52 am

Right? And in some cases the last minute is actually more effective. I’ve trained myself not to pick up toys/crap off the floor until literally 5 minutes before people arrive. Otherwise, what’s the point?

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Christian toto March 3, 2014 at 10:53 pm

Having guests over is our sure-fire way of cleaning the house on a weekend. Even better – our friends have children roughly the same age as our boys, and they often offer to help clean up before they leave. We used to say, ‘oh no, please … that’s not necessary.’ Now, we let them and make it a social extension. Sometimes, the dad and I will hit the kitchen and pair up for wash/dry dishes duty. That gives us time to talk about manly/father issues, while my wife and her female friend discuss whatever they wish in the kids’ play room. Meanwhile, our children know they only have a few minutes left to play together, so they get going in earnest.

Good post … one small way to make a home a little more livable!

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Dayna March 4, 2014 at 7:35 am

I always look around and decide what is the most embarrassing thing in the house at the moment. Usually it’s my floors. They are always dirty. A quick vacuum is good because I put away clutter as I go.

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