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My ‘pre-mothering’ travel routine: what’s wrong with prepping your family before you hit the road?

by Meagan Francis on May 2, 2012

I mentioned my “pre-mothering” pre-trip rituals in Monday’s post, but it turns out I had a lot more to say on the subject:

As I usually do before a trip, I’ve spent much of the last few days doing what I jokingly refer to as “pre-mothering:” stocking the house with snacks and reasonably healthy convenience food. Washing, folding, and putting away laundry. Changing sheets. Printing out important phone numbers. Double-checking the kids’ activities and school schedules. Tonight, if I have time, I might make a big pot of soup.

The point is, caring for kids while the other spouse travels is challenging, especially when everyone’s used to two parents being around most of the time. Sure, we are each totally capable of filling in for the other when needed. But why not make things easier for one another when we can?

Please hop over to my Babble blog to read the rest! And I’d love to know: do you have a pre-travel “mothering” routine? Why or why not?

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SusanP May 2, 2012 at 1:25 pm

Only have a quick moment to reply, so I haven’t read the babble item yet. I wanted to put this comment Monday but this is a very busy week!

My comment is — when my husband is going to be out of town, he does a “pre-fathering” routine. He makes sure the oil and tires are good on the cars. He makes sure all the utilities are fine, and gives me a reminder on how to turn off the main water valve in an emergency (this is because we had a broken pipe the first winter in our house, when he was out of town of course!!). He cuts the grass. He double checks all the computer stuff is set so I don’t lose internet. He reteaches me how to use Skype. He’ll do a Costco run for any bulk items we need. I could go on and on. The point is, he does all of these things to help me out because he cares about me and is thoughtful. I don’t mind it at all and I don’t think we moms should beat ourselves up for doing something similar. NOW, I think the approach can make all the difference. If it’s done in a condescending / nagging / nit picky tone, then that’s different. I think in a healthy partnership, that’s not the case. Enjoy your trip!

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Sleeping Mom May 2, 2012 at 1:31 pm

I’m not away from home often, but this year I do have to travel away from home twice. Already I’m thinking how hard it can be for my husband. Because when he had to travel for work and I was alone with the kid, it *was* hard, however competent of a mom I am. When the daily routine is so used to having two parents around, it gets difficult to have to fill two roles, even for just a few days.

It’s like when we have someone over to babysit; we know they’re competent, but setting out all the diapers and showing them where the food is located can be a huge help.

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Tiny Blue Lines May 2, 2012 at 3:21 pm

I absolutely do this, not necessarily because I don’t trust my husband, but more because 1) I like to make things easier for him while I’m gone, since I’m the primary “at-home” parent and 2) It makes it easier for me when I come back! :)

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