I’m here at the Mom 2.0 Summit and have been struck by how fantastic some of the panelist’s quotes have been–and how perfectly they mesh with my mission and message here at The Happiest Mom. I wanted to share a few that have jumped out as particularly fitting.
Abigail Disney, a fabulous filmmaker, activist, and mother of many (I think she said she has four kids) is one of those awesome people who are making such a visible difference in the world that when first considering her body of work, I felt shamefully frivolous by comparison. But then Abigail reminded us all that small, steady steps, made by average, ordinary people, make a huge difference in the long run, and I felt inspired instead of intimidated.
During the keynote panel that kicked off the conference this morning, Abigail said not one, but FOUR things I desperately scribbled down (apologies to Abigail if I didn’t get the exact wording right):
On making positive change in the world:
- “To kill weeds, plant lots of flowers.”
On feeling like what you can contribute is not enough:
- “Problems are never completely solved…we need to kill the American idea of the hero.”
- “The process is the reward.”
- “Be a brick in the wall.”
I’ve often felt like I “should” be doing more in my community and globally for social good, but have felt too overwhelmed by the immensity of the need–plus, frankly, the demands of my own life–to feel like I could really make any difference. Abigail’s words inspired me to take a lesson from my own advice to “be the turtle, not the hare” and “aim low, go slow” and apply those principles to slowly, steadily making a difference outside of my family too.
The second speaker of the day who blew me away with an on-point quotable was Erica Diamond of Women On The Fence. Erica spoke about the danger of comparing ourselves to other women–that when we are convinced that they have it all together and do it all, we aren’t looking at the whole picture. The way she summed it up blew me away:
“We compare our very worst to somebody else’s very best.”
Wow. That is so true, isn’t it? Haven’t you ever looked at a mom’s public game face on her very best day, and found yourself comparing it to your worst private moments? How unfair to ourselves–and inaccurate, too. I wonder how that mom would feel comparing HER worst moments to YOUR best?
Nobody has it all together. Nobody does it all. Nobody is such a hero that they change the world in a fell swoop overnight.
It’s all of us, putting one foot in front of the other day after day, who are able to live our own best lives and change the world.
Thanks for the reminder, Erica and Abigail!
Wondering what’s up with my blog book tour?