Pardon our dust! (And, yay for changes!)

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Looking for inspiration and real-life connection? Join me at the BEYOND Retreat next fall.

You know one of the biggest benefits of slowing down and doing less? When you step off of the merry-go-round of doing, doing, doing just because it seems like, well, the thing to do, you suddenly have all this “new” time and energy and brain space to pursue things that mean a lot to you. For years I’ve been dreaming of putting together an event bringing together awesome women in one place to dream, plan, recharge and get inspired. And now it’s time to make it happen. In October of 2015 I’ll be hosting a small but mighty group of women (is

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“Fun Parent” vs. “Boring Parent” – It’s Not Fair! But Is It True?

My husband made this lunch for my daughter last week. I know. I should have known it was coming when I caught him poring over Bento box tutorials on YouTube, watching a woman meticulously arrange smiley faces onto tiny rice-ball heads, then cap them off with pita-pocket hats. The very next day, Jon made a special trip to the grocery store for supplies. And that evening, he and Clara hovered over the kitchen island for a good half-hour creating The Lunch To End All Lunches.  Heart-shaped salami framed by heart-shaped cheese slices, people. A tiny little star cutout peanut-butter sandwich with honey and sprinkles


Delegate Like Downton: A Strategy For Managing Home Helpers

Imagine this: it’s a Sunday afternoon. One child just got done shoveling the walk, and another is unloading the dishwasher. You, on the other hand, are reading a magazine, sipping a cup of tea and enjoying the calm of a neat (enough) kitchen…that you didn’t even have to tidy up yourself. Sound like a fantasy? It’s not! It’s actually how my Sunday afternoon played out…and it’s a pretty common scenario around here. It hasn’t always been this way. Earlier in marriage and motherhood, I was surrounded by mess and chaos, and bogged down by resentment. Why didn’t other family members recognize

At Home with Meagan

5 Must-Have Kitchen Tools

I’ve been wanting to do a regular video series, like, forEVER. But when I had kids home with me during the day, I found it was just too difficult to find quiet pockets of time to shoot and edit regularly. A five-minute video may not seem like it takes much time to do, but there’s a lot of set-up and production involved, even in the most “candid” vids.  Now that my days are my own, though, I’m finding that I’ve got the space and quiet to take on some of those things I’ve been wanting to do! So, here it

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Whimsical Girl’s Bedroom Ideas

We’re moving! In less than two weeks my family is relocating to Southern California and we couldn’t be more excited. Our new house is ready and waiting for us and I’m itching to get into it and start settling in. One of the biggest differences between our current house and the one we’re moving into is the flooring. We have carpet now – lots of it – and we’re moving into a house with all hardwood floors. And while the new floors are beautiful, it’s going to be awfully echo-y in there until we get some area rugs down. One problem:


Gardening with Kids, The (Really) Easy Way

I’ve always wanted to think of myself as the kind of mom who grows herbs indoors using a DIY seed-starting kit, turning toilet-paper rolls or egg cartons into frugal mini-gardens which nurture her child’s green thumb, creativity and resourcefulness. In reality, I’m the kind of mom who intends, every year, to start seeds indoors eight weeks before the ground is warm, or start a windowsill herb garden, but always forgets to gather the supplies or set aside an afternoon for putting together a system. So this year, I decided to skip all the usual “Oh man, I can’t believe I

Five secrets to building a social life as a mom

"So, think we could pencil in a friendship starting next week?"

Yesterday I asked “Why is it so hard to make mom friends?” And while some of you have serious challenges to friendship (like living out in the middle of nowhere, for example) for many of us the obstacles to creating a support system are more typical and a lot less insurmountable. Don’t get me wrong, making friends isn’t easy: it requires patience, it requires putting ourselves out there, it requires facing possible rejection, it requires a bit of bravery…it’s just hard.

But I believe your future friends are out there somewhere–and it’s worth sticking it out until you find them.  This “getting to know other parents” stuff won’t just happen on its own; it requires effort and often, a little discomfort on our part.

So how to move past the “it’s hard” stuff and forge friendships anyway? Here are five tough-love principles to help:

  1. Be honest. It’s not easy to admit that we’re needy, is it? But sometimes that’s just what we have to do to get the other person’s attention and make the best use of limited time. So say what you’re thinking, like: “I just moved to town, and don’t know any other moms yet. Do you know of any playgroups or mom get-togethers around here?” I bet you’d be surprised how readily the other mom will cough up the info. Who knows: she might be thinking the same thing and will be thrilled you took the first step.
  2. Be open. It’s tempting to scout only for other moms who seem to do things the same way you do or have a similar lifestyle to yours. But most of the time, you can’t judge another mom’s parenting, life, or values by the few minutes you see her in public. Besides, who knows? It might seem like you have nothing in common–she drove up in her brand-new Lexus while you rattled up in your ten-year-old beater; you’re there with your laptop and a mother’s helper while she’s frolicking barefoot with her kids–but you might find a surprising amount of simpatico in somebody who, on the surface, seems like your complete opposite. Plus, even if the two of you aren’t meant to be best buddies, she might be able to connect you to a larger group. Bottom line: you have nothing to lose by striking up a conversation.
  3. Be around. You know that mom everybody seems to know–the social butterfly who always has somebody to talk to and seems to know all the preschool gossip? I’m guessing if you watch her for a while, you’ll realize that part of her secret to social success is simply being around. It’s tougher for moms who work during the day or those of us who have multi-aged children and can’t volunteer in the classroom or chaperon every field trip, but we can still look for opportunities to be visible:
    • Maybe you could get to daycare drop-off or pick-up a few minutes early so you have a chance to chat up the other parents.
    • Perhaps you can volunteer to run concessions at soccer, rip tickets at the school silent auction, or take on some other high-visibility after-hours function.
    • If there aren’t any after-hours school functions, maybe it’s time to talk to your child’s teacher or coach about helping working parents feel more involved by scheduling some evening or weekend events.

    I’m going to be honest with you here: I hate ripping tickets, running concessions and waiting around outside a classroom for school to let out, so I totally understand why you might not want to sign on for those jobs. But if you’re lonely, sometimes you gotta suck it up and show up anyway.

  4. Be specific. When it’s time for one of you to go, don’t say something vague like, “Well, I guess I’ll see you around…” or “It would be great to get together again…” Trust me: it’ll never happen. Set a date, or ask for her email address so you can get in touch when you get home. And if somebody else tries to make a date with you, do your best to be available! Again, if you want to meet people, you have to show up. Also, a word for those of you who, like me, would much rather people just dropped by than trying to schedule everything: unfortunately, much of the rest of the world doesn’t really work like that. I have friends with whom I schedule get-togethers via a “Want 2 come over 4 lunch?” text message at 10 AM, but that kind of seat-of-pants planning absolutely wouldn’t work for the other 75% of moms I know. If you really want to strike up a friendship you sometimes have to play by the other person’s social rules, and that might mean–shudder–scheduling two-hour playdates two weeks in advance with somebody who lives three doors down. That doesn’t mean you can’t hang on to your last-minute come-on-over policy, of course; just that you can’t assume it’ll work for other people’s schedules or sense of propriety.
  5. Be persistent. Don’t give up if your first few efforts at reaching out aren’t reciprocated. It’s almost certainly not personal. I’ve let plenty of balls drop with perfectly lovely women who I really would like to develop a friendship with…only I’m slammed with deadlines, or my toddler has decided she won’t nap at all if I don’t get her down precisely at 1:12 PM (and playgroup starts at 1:00), or my life is simply feeling really full and I can’t add one more thing…even if it’s just a coffee date. As a mom with a similarly full life, I’m sure you can relate. So instead of writing off that other mom as too snobby or wondering if you smell weird, just chalk it up to the two of you operating on different frequencies at the moment, try again, and if there’s still no response…move on.

Have you found that being open, persistent, specific, around, or honest has helped you make friends? If you’ve got a great support network, what’s your secret?

Tomorrow I’m going to tackle a big challenge: feeling like an outsider when you’re the “new girl.” Stay tuned!

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